Moving into minimalism for me seems to be in ups and downs.
At the moment we are in a down. We are less than three weeks out to the wedding
and I alternate between being stressed and passive. On one hand I suddenly
think of something I’ve forgotten and then on the other I figure it all doesn’t
really matter, no matter what happens it will still be our wedding and we will
be surrounded by loved ones. The final preparations have also seen more stuff
coming into the flat than leaving. There are boxes of wine stacked in the
lounge and bits of coloured decor paper everywhere. Glass jars, Consular
paperwork and ceremony programs. I am finding it all a bit grim and at this
point just want to have it be the day already; this waiting is driving me nuts
and just gives me time to think of more stuff to do.
The itch to still shed more stuff is still there, there are
a few cupboards I still want to get too but I seem to have neither the energy
nor motivation to get to them at the moment. Right now my mantra is ‘after the
wedding’, my life will continue after the wedding, until then everything else seems
on hold even the things that I deem important like friends and going out. Right
now our evenings are mostly fully booked, final details cake last night, DJ
tomorrow, hair and make-up trial on Friday (which they say will take upwards of
2 hours!), dress-fittings, coffee vendors and payments.
Things I’ve moved to ‘after the wedding’:
·
Starting a small herb garden and getting an
indoor potted plant
·
Having dinner with a new couple we’ve met who
seem pretty cool
·
Moving onto chemical free shampoo and
conditioner (luckily I still have lots of the home-made body wash or else I
might have slid back to commercial stuff here too)
·
Organizing a braai for our friends
·
Going back to the gym (I used to go twice a week
but have been too exhausted last few months so kept putting it off)
So even though the wedding was the catalyst that had me
yearning for a more simple lifestyle it is unfortunately getting in the way of
a lot of the things I want to do to simplify. At first I wanted to power
through and just heap the decluttering and new lifestyle on top of my other
commitments. I have learned though that I need to be kinder to myself and take
things more as a step by step process that I don’t need to complete in record
time. So it too is for ‘after the wedding’.
